If you are in the accounting, bookkeeping, or tax professions (or in one of the peripherally related professions such as payroll, app development, tech support, etc.), then it’s possible that you’ve questioned whether you in fact have personality. Right? Well, let me reassure you that YES, you do have personality! But here is the main question.
What IS your personality like? Is it the same as mine? Is it the same as your peers or colleagues? Chances are, probably not. Everyone is different – and therefore, everyone’s personality is different. In other words, I cannot assume that just because I may be an Introvert, then the person sitting next to me must also be an introvert. It is more than a black and white comparison.
Each one of us has different shades to our makeup, which is influenced by a gazillion of factors. Therefore, it is safe to say that we all have different aspects of our personality and that may be at odds or opposite of our family friends, co-workers, or colleagues. Through understanding those nuanced aspects of our personality, we can start to appreciate our differences and how we complement and round out each other.
This article, derived from a workshop I developed and taught at the annual Scaling New Heights conference last year, is designed to help us delve into all these considerations about personality. Even though we will touch on the two main personality types in this article, introverts and extroverts, we will also focus on the true meaning of both, as well as demonstrate that personality is not an either/or phenomenon – there are various shades of grey that make up our own unique, individual selves.
I love this picture. The Extrovert and Introvert have two diametrically opposite reactions to the situation of “staying in.” Does this resonate with you?
Having shared this truth, please consider the fact that being an introvert vs being an extrovert is so much more than just being shy or outgoing. Before we consider what is the biggest difference between the two, let’s look at the common key traits of each.
You may be an Introvert if:
You may be an Extrovert if
So, the biggest difference between the two broad personality types is how each prefers to spend their time! But, that isn't all.
Another consideration regarding introvert vs extrovert is that it’s more complicated than just being “and/or.”
The Situation:
In reality:
Truthfully, we all fall somewhere on this spectrum. And many of us fall somewhere towards the middle. There is a term for this middle-range type - Ambivert.
Introvert? Extrovert? Ambivert? You may be smack in the middle of the spectrum, or closer to the middle than on either end. So, what is an Ambivert, exactly?
An Ambivert is formally defined as a person whose personality has a balance of extrovert and introvert features. However, this statement really encompasses what an Ambivert truly is. "An Ambivert is normally comfortable with groups and enjoys social interaction, but also relishes time alone and away from the crowd... I’m exactly what an Ambivert is… yes, I like to go out and have fun, but I definitely like my alone time, too. Somedays I show more qualities of one or the other, but I think everyone has those days."
According to an article written by Travis Bradberry for Forbes, there are nine signs to look for if you suspect that you or someone you know may be an Ambivert. I only list four here, so read the full article to learn the other nine. d I have provided links to his article in the Resources area.
You may be an Ambivert if:
You can use the free 16 Personalities assessment tool to get started. The tool includes:
My personality type is "The Defender” (ISFJ-T). To give you an idea of what you will learn from your own personality assessment, let me share some key aspects of my profile.
Want to learn more about me? You can see my full results here and compare them to your profile for fun.
Here are some key takeaways from my research: